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 Australia

"The adopted child I am still waiting to meet"
www.mamamia.com.au www.mamamia.com.au
Our friends and family often ask “Any word yet?” and my usual, uniform response is “Not yet, still playing the waiting game.” Having waded through the endless paper work, the information nights, the training sessions, the assessment and the subsequent approval to locally adopt or permanently care for a child, my husband and I had expectations.

These expectations have been slowly dwindling, shrinking to fit the mould of what our social worker had told us in the beginning, “Tthink of this process as a pregnancy”, our own ideas and the actual truth of how long we have been waiting. We constantly ask ourselves: “Are we asking too much? Are we putting our lives on hold for something that is just not going to happen? What can we do to help this situation?” and as difficult as it would be, “Should we find a new focus?”

Every time we each ponder these questions, it shapes us and our opinion of the process we’ve been through up until now. Each time we hear the news of yet another friend or family member being blessed with a baby we hear that little question we dare not say aloud – “Why can’t this be happening to us?” We are not incredibly jealous people, we’re normally much more grounded and content with our lives.
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Adoption in School -- Samples, Handouts & Downloadables
chinaadoptiontalk.blogspot.com.au chinaadoptiontalk.blogspot.com.au
"My last post on adoption in the schools required you to BUY resources. This one features internet resources, handouts & downloadables that are free, free, free!"
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Blogs: Australia, Education Material for Teachers & Parents
Useful Links: Australia, Education Material for Teachers & Parents


The end of adoption in Australia?
blogs.news.com.au blogs.news.com.au
A while ago the Naughty Corner discussed egg donation and we were surprised by the number of people who said they would rather adopt rather than use a donor. It’s taken a while, but I’ve had a little look into adoption in Australia.
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What's wrong with adoption - or celebrity adoption?
blogs.news.com.au blogs.news.com.au
It's easy to be cynical when it comes to celebrities. Too many hand-on-my-heart denials of plastic surgery from certain frozen-faced, swollen-lipped stars have done little for their collective credibility. But the suspicion surrounding celebrity adoption goes beyond mere eye-rolling over the vanity and eccentricity of the rich and famous. Often it’s downright nasty – if not blatantly racist. News earlier this year that Sandra Bullock had adopted a baby boy wasn’t only met with glossy photo spreads and congratulatory messages. Despite public goodwill surrounding the then newly minted Oscar winner and everyone’s favourite wronged wife, the inevitable sniping soon began. First there was the usual accusation that the decision to adopt was a publicity-seeking exercise. No matter that with photographers camped out on her front doorstop for weeks, the last thing Bullock needed just then was another front-page headline. Another fact conveniently overlooked was that Bullock’s son was born in New Orleans. After photos revealed the three-month-old to be – gasp! – black, snide allegations she was “stealing some kid from Africa” duly followed. If reaction to celebrity adoption came with a handbook, no doubt that particular cheap shot would be printed in bold type on the first page. Just ask Angelina Jolie and Madonna. But this isn’t about feeling sorry for wrongly maligned superstars. It’s about the wariness and ignorance that surrounds inter-country adoption.
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Blogs: Australia, Celebrity Adoption


 China

Research-China.Org
research-china.blogspot.com research-china.blogspot.com
"Essays from my experiences researching China's orphanages. My intent is to educate adoptive parents about Chinese culture, China adoptions and aspects of their child's early life in China."
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 Colombia

Colombia Adoption
raisingcolombiankids.blogspot.com raisingcolombiankids.blogspot.com
Helping families who have adopted or hope to adopt Colombian children learn about the process and stayed connected with the Colombian culture.
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United Adoptees International - Colombia
www.uai-co.blogspot.com www.uai-co.blogspot.com
Welcome to the weblog of the UAI - Colombia. Here you will find topics and news regarding Colombian Adoption and Adoptees.
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 France

La famille Souris (in French)
bresiladoption.canalblog.com bresiladoption.canalblog.com
Follow adoptive family Souris on their adventures
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 Korea, South

A Day of Celebration
holtinternational.org holtinternational.org
In August 2012, a new adoption law passed in Korea, creating several changes to the country’s international adoption process — including a requirement for all families to appear before the family court in Korea. Here, Holt’s director of programs for Korea reflects on the first court appearances for Holt families, which occurred on May 31st of this year.

There was an air of great anticipation and a bit of dread at the main office of Holt Children’s Services of Korea that Thursday morning. As I walked to the elevator that would take me to the Overseas Section office, I passed a gentleman pacing the lobby, a person I presumed to be an adoptive parent. That day, the first five families from Holt International would be standing before a judge in a courtroom of the Korean Family Court, to answer questions about themselves, their adoption journey, and about the child they were hoping to bring home to be a part of their families. Three families would be appearing in the morning, and the remaining two that afternoon.
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Holt International's price for children - Adoption industry is the fault of the State that sits on the fence
www.hani.co.kr www.hani.co.kr

/showurl.php?url=3136 Her siblings hated Leanne. She had small eyes and black hair. Leanne was the only person of Asian descent that lived in her small neighborhood located in the city of Detroit, Michigan. Her three siblings bullied her and her adoptive parents abused her. It was a different story though when Leanne was first received into the arms of her adoptive parents in December of 1966. They voluntarily adopted Leanne. They must have once had sympathy for a baby coming from a poor country.
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Blogs: Korea, South


Jane Jeon Trenka: Language of Blood
www.languageofblood.com www.languageofblood.com
Adoption from a Korean American transracial adoptee's point of view
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Blogs: Adoptees, Korea, South


Korean Blog
www.redbrick.dcu.ie www.redbrick.dcu.ie
Blogs: Korea, South


Lee's Korea Blog
www.leeskoreablog.blogspot.com www.leeskoreablog.blogspot.com
Blogs: Korea, South


Memories of Korea
www.memoriesofkorea.blogspot.com.au www.memoriesofkorea.blogspot.com.au
As we came to the end of our time in Korea we still had one last thing we needed to do. We had to travel from Seoul to Iksan on the KTX to see some Pastors who were planning a trip to Australia. This was very exciting for me because a few years before I had spent time with Pastors in Iksan and Gunsan so it was a bit of a reunion but it was also exciting to be part of the planning for the team going from Korea to Australia.
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Blogs: Korea, South, Religion


Mothers Mission to Korea Blog
mothersmission2011.blogspot.com mothersmission2011.blogspot.com
Since 2008 a group of Queensland Ladies have travelled to South Korea on a Mothers Mission to help ESWS provide care and support for children in orphanages and single mothers. All the ladies are paying their own expenses so every dollar raised goes to help ESWS with the wonderful work they do. This year Community Aid Network is assisting with helping organise funding raise so please get behind the ladies and help where you can. you can follow the ladies on facebook as well.
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Blogs: Korea, South


My Adoption Story
allaboutappa.tumblr.com allaboutappa.tumblr.com
My name on the Adoption Order was ‘Ra Kyung Lee’, I was born on the 20th December 1980, I was ‘placed in the custody, care and control’ of David George Chapman and Caroline Anne Chapman in 1985.
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Blogs: Korea, South


Supporting Single Moms In Korea
www.creatingafamily.org www.creatingafamily.org
A few weeks ago I posted a blog on what is happening to international adoption in South Korea, to the children who are not being adopted, and what it means to international adoptions in general. We had a lively and informative discussion in the comment section, which included some comments from adult Korean adoptees. (Aside: you really really should check out this blog and comments.) In the course of the discussion we all seemed to agree that unwed mothers in Korea needed our support. Single parenthood is a hard walk anywhere and even harder in Korea due to lack of societal and family support.
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Blogs: Korea, South


Third Mom
thirdmom.blogspot.com thirdmom.blogspot.com
The adoptive mom of two Korean teens thinks out loud
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Blogs: Korea, South


 Ukraine

Ukraine Adoption
ukraine.adoptionblogs.com ukraine.adoptionblogs.com
"Changing lives, changing hearts, changing the world"
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Blogs: Ukraine


 United Kingdom

Should Race Be a Factor in Adoption?
www.theroot.com www.theroot.com
In the United States in 2010, black children left the care system at a rate of 24 percent, while white children left at a rate of 43 percent, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. In the UK, where I live, a black child is three times less likely to be adopted from care than a white child. And until recently, UK guidelines on adoption have made it difficult to adopt between races.
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Blogs: United Kingdom, USA


 USA

Birthmother's Day: Separate and Not Equal but Maybe Okay
www.blogher.com www.blogher.com
The day before Mother's Day is Birthmother's Day. Started in 1990 by a group of birthmothers in Seattle, it is a day set aside to honor the love, sacrifice and loss that mothers who relinquish their children for adoption feel and experience.
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Blogs: Birth Parents, USA


Should Race Be a Factor in Adoption?
www.theroot.com www.theroot.com
In the United States in 2010, black children left the care system at a rate of 24 percent, while white children left at a rate of 43 percent, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. In the UK, where I live, a black child is three times less likely to be adopted from care than a white child. And until recently, UK guidelines on adoption have made it difficult to adopt between races.
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Blogs: United Kingdom, USA


The Impact of Adoption
www.reginabrettshow.org www.reginabrettshow.org
Adoption is a lifetime commitment. There are losses. There are rewards. There are challenges. There is love. On this edition of The Regina Brett Show, Regina talks to adult adoptees who have committed their lives to being a voice and advocate for those touched by adoption. Betsie Norris is the executive director of Adoption Network Cleveland. Norris says as an adult adoptee she didn’t know anything about her birth family nor her ancestry.
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Blogs: USA


US school provides worst bullying advice ever
www.essentialkids.com.au www.essentialkids.com.au

/showurl.php?url=3043 When I send my son off to school each day I do so in the belief teachers will do their best to protect him, and all children, from bullying. It's nice to think school staff will be there to listen and act if our sons or daughters are taunted, called names, made to fear for their safety or physically attacked by the playground thug. But if parents at one US school also held these beliefs, they recently learned they were sadly mistaken. Instead parents at Zeman Elementary School, Nebraska were informed teachers would much prefer it if victims of bullying would simply shut-up about it. Not only that, but they advise victims of bullying to be nice to their tormentor and treat them as a friend. The bullied students are told to not defend themselves, to learn to laugh at themselves and to not be a sore losers. Nobody likes a sore loser apparently, bullies on the other hand seem to qualify for Student Of The Year at Zeman.
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Blogs: USA


 Vietnam

Ethnically Incorrect Daughter
ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com ethnicallyincorrect.wordpress.com
I was born in Saigon during the Vietnam war but by the time America called its troops home, I was already long gone. My adoption papers say I was born in 1970. Six months later, I landed on the shores of America claimed and renamed; a supposed blank slate
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Adoptees

Daughter of 2 Women
daughterof2women.wordpress.com daughterof2women.wordpress.com
A collection of thoughts, feelings, and stories about adoption by an adoptee.
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From the Eyes of The Child - A Girl. Adopted. Writing to Change the Lives of Others with the Same Story
fromtheeyesofthechild.wordpress.com fromtheeyesofthechild.wordpress.com

/showurl.php?url=3025 From what I have seen just looking around a little bit before I did this... This tends to be the most controversial post ever...

So let me just preface mine a little bit before we dive right in.

1. I am happy being adopted. If you were hoping to read something else… then I apologize but your not going to find that here.
2. No, I do not look anything like my parents. However, my family does look kind of like a puzzle. We are all within one shade of each other! (Yeah, try that one for size!)
3. I am so grateful for all the response I have gotten so far. It truly has been a privilege to meet the people I have and talk to those who have had interest. Just a little update. The site has reached a total of 30 different countries! Shout out to my readers in Australia, the UK and Canada!

That being said... lets dive in!
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Blogs: Adoptees




Jane Jeon Trenka: Language of Blood
www.languageofblood.com www.languageofblood.com
Adoption from a Korean American transracial adoptee's point of view
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Blogs: Adoptees, Korea, South


Racism / Sexism

White anti-racist parent
whiteantiracistparent.blogspot.com whiteantiracistparent.blogspot.com
A place for open dialog around raising anti-racist consciousness & activism in the white community
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Blogs: Racism / Sexism


Birth Parents

Birthmother's Day: Separate and Not Equal but Maybe Okay
www.blogher.com www.blogher.com
The day before Mother's Day is Birthmother's Day. Started in 1990 by a group of birthmothers in Seattle, it is a day set aside to honor the love, sacrifice and loss that mothers who relinquish their children for adoption feel and experience.
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Blogs: Birth Parents, USA


Don't Talk Negatively About My Birthfamily
www.adoption.net www.adoption.net

/showurl.php?url=3023 No matter the circumstances your adopted child came to you, never speak negatively about your child’s birthfamily. There is always a way to turn a negative life event into a positive one. Always remember, if it were not for your adopted child’s birth family, you would not have your little blessing today. What does an adoptive parent gain to tell their child of the horrific abuse or drug abuse of their birthmother? It will not change the love an adoptee has for their birthmother developed in the womb. I have heard that a few, not all, adoptive parents don’t mind divulging the fact that their child’s birthmother was on drugs, a prostitute, negligent, etc. hoping their adopted child would hate their birth parents and deter them from searching or making contact with their birthfamily.
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Blogs: Birth Parents


Negativity and Adoption
www.adoption.net www.adoption.net

/showurl.php?url=3066 I have been blogging about my adoption experience for about 4 years now. I have grown immensely through my blogging. It helped me cope. Through writing I was able to process all the feelings I had in my head and couldn’t say out loud. It gave me strength and courage. As my blog started to gain more readers, some of those readers were definitely not fans of my views on adoption. There are some people who do not agree with adoption. They hate me and other birth moms when we talk positively about our adoption experience. They speak of abandonment, being forced, being coaxed. I did not abandon my child, I was not forced to place, and I was not coaxed. I made the choice I felt was best for my baby.
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Blogs: Birth Parents


Expat Parents

The Hygiene Hypothesis
www.sarahpsalmon.com www.sarahpsalmon.com

/showurl.php?url=3077 The next time you catch your toddler putting something disgusting in its mouth, you can soothe yourself with the so-called ‘hygiene hypothesis’. According to this theory, “exposure to infectious agents early in life offers protection against allergic diseases. The more hygienic a child’s environment, the greater the risk”.

I’m not advocating that you feed your child spoiled food, or make them lick the floor. But the next time you find your child nibbling on a dead cockroach, be grateful that they are building up their immune system.
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Blogs: Expat Parents


Parenting

Secular Humanistic Parenting: Lessons From the Foxhole
parentingbeyondbelief.com parentingbeyondbelief.com
As children gradually turn into teenagers and young adults, they encounter situations where they have to make complex decisions; their innate human ability to distinguish right from wrong may not always provide the guidance that they need. As a parent I find it helpful to give them a path, or at least a suggestion of a path. Teenagers may decide to stray from that path at times, and that’s okay. I’m not advocating a set of strict rules, only a reminder of what they already know.
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Adoptive Parents

Ten Things NOT to Say to Adoptive Parents.
africatoamerica.org africatoamerica.org

/showurl.php?url=3006 A few days ago my 10 months pregnant friend at The Measured Mom posted a great list of things NOT to say to a pregnant woman, and politely suggest some alternatives. I laughed out loud reading some of them, remembering how many of them were said to me, and, shamefully, how many I have said to my pregnant friends, since I have forgotten what it's like to walk around with another human being inside of you!

When I'm with my fellow adoptive girlfriends, you will often hear us say, "Oh, you won't believe this one!" as we share the latest offensive thing someone has said to us. But just as I've been guilty of saying, "You look like you're ready to pop!" to my overdue pregnant friends without meaning to make them feel worse simply because I've only been pregnant once and have forgotten all about it, other well-meaning people say some of the things on this list simply because they've never adopted and don't know what else to say, or not say.

So I collaborated with some other adoptive parents to come up with this following list:
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Blogs: Adoptive Parents


The Rogue Royals
roguequeen.wordpress.com roguequeen.wordpress.com
The story of how Rogue Queen and King Gold Crown find a baby.
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Blogs: Adoptive Parents, Religion


Statistics

The real reason international adoptions are failing
qz.com qz.com
Reuters published an investigative series last week on Americans abandoning adopted children and looking online to find other families to take them. The new guardians have had little screening; tales of abuse and neglect abound. Failed adoptions are, sadly, common. Somewhere between 10 to 25% of domestic adoptions fail. No statistics are available for international adoptions, but consider Reuters’ own findings: In the 261 children trying to be “re-homed,” 70% were international adoptees; many were described as having attachment disorders. There’s more bad news: Recent trends in international adoptions suggest that a higher share will fail. And that’s despite a fall in US adoptions from overseas. Here’s why: These days, countries that have traditionally been a large source of children, like China and Guatemala, allow fewer adoptions or in Russia’s none at all. The figure below shows the number of international adoptions from the US State Department.
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 Education Material for Teachers & Parents

Adoption in School -- Samples, Handouts & Downloadables
chinaadoptiontalk.blogspot.com.au chinaadoptiontalk.blogspot.com.au
"My last post on adoption in the schools required you to BUY resources. This one features internet resources, handouts & downloadables that are free, free, free!"
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Blogs: Australia, Education Material for Teachers & Parents
Useful Links: Australia, Education Material for Teachers & Parents


 Health

Some non-effects of adoption
blogs.discovermagazine.com blogs.discovermagazine.com
Previous reviews of the literature have suggested that shared environmental effects may be underestimated in adoption studies because adopted individuals are exposed to a restricted range of family environments. A sample of 409 adoptive and 208 non-adoptive families from the Sibling Interaction and Behavior Study (SIBS) was used to identify the environmental dimensions on which adoptive families show greatest restriction and to determine the effect of this restriction on estimates of the adoptive sibling correlation. Relative to non-adoptive families, adoptive families experienced a 41% reduction of variance in parent disinhibitory psychopathology and an 18% reduction of variance in socioeconomic status (SES). There was limited evidence for range restriction in exposure to bad peer models, parent depression, or family climate. However, restriction in range in parent disinhibitory psychopathology and family SES had no effect on adoptive-sibling correlations for delinquency, drug use, and IQ. These data support the use of adoption studies to obtain direct estimates of the importance of shared environmental effects on psychological development.
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Trauma, adversity and kids - Treating traumatised kids - Are the current approaches to treating traumatized kids actually making them better?
helpingkidswithtrauma.blogspot.com.au helpingkidswithtrauma.blogspot.com.au
More and more research is telling us about the long-term negative consequences of trauma and adversity in childhood with correlations between childhood trauma and poor mental and physical health outcomes across the lifespan. So, it makes sense that there should be a good evidence base for treating the effects of childhood trauma.

In February this year, researchers in the United States undertook a Comparative Effectiveness Review (CER) examining the evidence for interventions that target traumatic stress symptoms and syndromes associated with nonrelational trauma, such as exposure to war, disasters and accidents. The review was sponsored by the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality (AHRQ). CERs are designed to guide health care decisions by providing evidence on the effectiveness, benefits and harms of different types of interventions.

The authors noted in their paper – although several guidelines on the treatment of PTSD in childhood and adolescence exist, the recommendations are inconsistent and largely not based on evidence from high-quality clinical trials or comparative effectiveness reviews (CERs).
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Health: Assorted


Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)

Forever Parents Blog Spot
foreverparents.com foreverparents.com
Last year, my 10 year old daughter and I had an interesting conversation.
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Blogs: Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)


RADical Adventures
radicaladventures.blogspot.com radicaladventures.blogspot.com
"every day with a child with RAD is an adventure. we have two!"
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Blogs: Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)


 Religion

Memories of Korea
www.memoriesofkorea.blogspot.com.au www.memoriesofkorea.blogspot.com.au
As we came to the end of our time in Korea we still had one last thing we needed to do. We had to travel from Seoul to Iksan on the KTX to see some Pastors who were planning a trip to Australia. This was very exciting for me because a few years before I had spent time with Pastors in Iksan and Gunsan so it was a bit of a reunion but it was also exciting to be part of the planning for the team going from Korea to Australia.
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Blogs: Korea, South, Religion


The Rogue Royals
roguequeen.wordpress.com roguequeen.wordpress.com
The story of how Rogue Queen and King Gold Crown find a baby.
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Blogs: Adoptive Parents, Religion


Celebrity Adoption

What's wrong with adoption - or celebrity adoption?
blogs.news.com.au blogs.news.com.au
It's easy to be cynical when it comes to celebrities. Too many hand-on-my-heart denials of plastic surgery from certain frozen-faced, swollen-lipped stars have done little for their collective credibility. But the suspicion surrounding celebrity adoption goes beyond mere eye-rolling over the vanity and eccentricity of the rich and famous. Often it’s downright nasty – if not blatantly racist. News earlier this year that Sandra Bullock had adopted a baby boy wasn’t only met with glossy photo spreads and congratulatory messages. Despite public goodwill surrounding the then newly minted Oscar winner and everyone’s favourite wronged wife, the inevitable sniping soon began. First there was the usual accusation that the decision to adopt was a publicity-seeking exercise. No matter that with photographers camped out on her front doorstop for weeks, the last thing Bullock needed just then was another front-page headline. Another fact conveniently overlooked was that Bullock’s son was born in New Orleans. After photos revealed the three-month-old to be – gasp! – black, snide allegations she was “stealing some kid from Africa” duly followed. If reaction to celebrity adoption came with a handbook, no doubt that particular cheap shot would be printed in bold type on the first page. Just ask Angelina Jolie and Madonna. But this isn’t about feeling sorry for wrongly maligned superstars. It’s about the wariness and ignorance that surrounds inter-country adoption.
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Blogs: Australia, Celebrity Adoption


Assorted

Green Dads Blog
www.greendadsblog.com www.greendadsblog.com
We believe in Being Green, Science and Rationality, and Honoring Diversity. And of course having fun! This blog is a personal blog about our daily lives, and the universal challenges of parenting, especially in a non-traditional family.
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Orphan children in foreign countries need our help (Blog for Nine MSN)
news.ninemsn.com.au news.ninemsn.com.au
About 40,000 children are placed through intercountry adoption across the world every year — yet only around 330 on average find their way into an Australian home.
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Raising 5 Kids With Disabilities and Remaining Sane
5kidswdisabilities.wordpress.com 5kidswdisabilities.wordpress.com
The Joy, Sorrow, Fear and Humor in Raising 5 Kids with Disabilities
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Ramblings of a Shadow - Wraith's Wrealm
wraithswrealm.com wraithswrealm.com
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